D D some explaining

   Took me to 9:30 p.m. yesterday to bring myself to click........ publish post .
This is Ryu  age 2 holding a lolipop in each hand.... Knows his colors already.
Went out to eat ......savored every bite.  Gai Poo Lo Mein, pork strips, shrimp fried rice, fried baby shrimp and spareribs Moi could eat Chinese food every day of the week.....until I got sick of it. LOL
Brought hubby back shrimp chow mein which was what he felt up to eating. Had asked for cereal, but changed his mind. Wise choice.
Ryu gave me a card with his and his baby sister Krista's picture in it. He can talk so well. Repeats word for word what his grandma tells him to say to me.  Kid#2 Larry has always been rough around the edges, but this kid makes him into a softy. Like seeing this side of him when they are together.....warms my heart.
    Afterwards moi did all the necessary things to close my night out. Pool pump, coffee, fold laundry, check the ferrets and dogs food and water, put out critter food. Fed Charlie before I left.
Then sat and sat looking at what I had written on my blog before going out to eat.
If I had given more history of what has transpired it may have tempered my bitterness.
Writing it down as I have lived it,  is what possessed moi to begin this blog, No cotton candying, if I am going to benefit from this.
   Will write the newspaper article word for word eliminating only the names and towns.
L------ A 37 year old D----- father was placed on probation for admitting that during a bitter custody dispute he tried to choke his ex wife while she held their 2 year old son in her arms.
Nearly two days into his trial in L-----Superior Court on assault charges, G------N---- halted proceedings to plead guilty to assault and battery in the March 2001 incident involving his former wife.
Judge J------L---- in accepting N----'s plea explained how , based upon testimony , N---- grabbed his former wife by the throat and put her up against a wall during a dispute about their 2 year old son.  The assualt was so traumatising the boy threw up in his mother's arms.
N----- apologized for his actions, saying " I love my kids . I made a mistake that day." He explained he had had ongoing arguments with his former wife about the care of their two sons and her new boyfriend.
Judge L-----told N-----that the anger he displayed in front of his children " showed the exact opposite of parenting."
L---- sentenced N---- to two years in jail, but the sentence is suspended for four years during which he is on probation.
Conditions of his release include anger management  and parenting program and no contact with former wife other than that allowed by probate court.
As part of the plea, prosecutor E------- D------ dropped charges of attempted murder, assualt and battery with a dangerous weapon and violation of a restraining order.
In his parting words, judge l---- told Nason, " I encourage you to go to probate when you disagree, not act out in force.

What this fails to say is that his then 9 year old son witnessed everything and as his mother cried out to him to call 911 and  his dad yelled, "don't do it."  He listened to his dad.
This episode was over his then girlfriend hitting Logan and Logan screaming and not wanting to go when it was visitation with his dad. He would scream and cling to mom or go hide.  No go, no go.
Her 9 year old was witness to the hitting, so when he came that day Jill asked their older son to tell dad what he had seen. He said his son was a fucking liar. She asked him to go back and confront his girlfriend as they both agreed at the time of their divorce that no parties other than themselves would be allowed to touch their children in that way. Come back tommorow for Logan. With that he demanded his visitation rights right then and there and lunged for her as she held Logan comforting him.
This article doesn't mention that Logan was screaming in fright as he held onto his mother when dad lunged for her and chased her into her bedroom. This article doesn't reflect any of the trauma the two kids suffered.
This assault happened in my house while I we were away in Florida. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!
This doesn't mention that her son was video'd behind a one way glass mirror explaining what he saw to a child physciatrist/social worker, nor how many times his dad and his criminal attorney postponed the trial after serving the 9 year old with a subpeona over and over which uspet him greatly. I can recall 4 times.  Meantime his dad and his attorney worked on him to change his view of what he saw.
The struggle with his emotions during this time was evident in all his behaviors including school.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Time passed and he was 11 or close to it before the trial began.
The prosecutor offered my ex son in law a plea bargain more than once. .He refused it.
Two days into the trial after a break behind closed doors with his attorney telling him repeatedly that judges are dead set against a parent that puts his child on the stand against another parent,  he took the same plea bargain he was offered in the very beginning.
Stormed back into the court red faced and angry and told the judge his attorney told him to take the plea but he didn't do what he was charged with. Which of course led to the judge saying it had to be his own decision and all that other legal jargon. During this time my ex son in law even had the balls to say he never choked her, he just gave her a push and he demonstrated this push as he leaned into the judge and pushed his arm.
 I shit you not!
Nor does this article tell you that once he wrenched Logan from her arms he repeatedly kicked her with a shod foot and that he held Logan over her face when he threw up.  Laughed at her in her misery hurting on the floor before he fled with his sons.
Nor does this tell you that he lied to his probation officer. One of the requirements to waive the $50 weekly probation fee was being up to date on his child support.
They waived it without checking with DOR ... Department of Revenue.
From the scenes moi has witnessed ever since that sentencing date.... he learned nothing in anger management or parenting classes.  I shit you not!
The names he has used on her, the screeching of his tires as he sped off after picking the lids up, Him telling them that they will never see their mother again and them sobbing and pleading with him.
Both of them were warned way back not to discuss issues in front of the children and none of the behaviors just told.
In his own words to his oldest son, " rules were made to be broken. "
To this very day he still tells both kids he never did anything and that their mother lied. Every so often Logan will bring it up. Dad says ..........    He has forgotten what his dad did after he witnessed what transpired. For a few years Logan would grab his own throat with both hands and back up against the wall making strangling sounds.
It was pitiful to witness.   Glad Logan  has forgot all this,  for his sake.
Probably left out some things, but what I have written is the truth.  Every word of it.
Parents and sisters were in court and heard the responding policeman's testimony and hers. The jury seemed attentive to my daughter's testimony on the witness stand.......They have shown with words and deeds that they believe their son/brother. ...  Guess that is what family is for.......sigh! 
He's an effffing liar!  She phoned me in FL and all I could hear was a whispered voice struggling to speak.
    Would rather have written about the many blogs moi visited earlier this morning and how much enjoyment there was in reading them.  Some wonderful sharing of selves out there.
Thundering big time and it's getting closer. Rained all night....good sleeping weather. Never opened my eyes until 5:30 a.m.  Back in  bed til 7.  Almost noon.
Jill's ribs were killing her when she left to cater a cookout at 8 a.m. . Prepping food, then delivering and serving.  Hope there is something to get out from the rain under.
That's All Folks.