D D Happy New Year to all, it's been a

HELLOFA NIGHT before the eve of 2012. 
There is no efffin way that I will be seeing the ball drop in New York on TV tonight. Not after last night! I shit you not!
Night before last Logan had his friend Kenny sleep over ( in the livingroom of course :0(  ) and they had a grand old time ( it had been quite awhile as Kenny has been grounded for doing poorly in school ) and they played video games til between 2:30 and 3 a.m. and chatted and laughed. Logan...being a constant chatterbug. sighhhhh 
Mom keeps her door closed at night and it's fair to say she misses most of this...( has been the case for more than a few years )until she has to rise to pee and gives them a uknowwhatfor, which only lasts til she is back in her bedroom. sigh
Last night she warned them....BED AT ELEVEN.
Tracie left just after nine thirty and I turned in :0) Earlier we ran up to KMART and I found some good buys. Stuff to store until next Christmas or a birthday. :0(  :0)   Jewelry boxes 70% off. Can't beat THAT. I shit you not!
 Hubby had been taking cat naps and naps from morning to THAT HOUR, which was nacho cheese ( nuked ) time for the boys and drinks of course.
He nodded off again ( grumbling that I had Dr.G on and it was a repeat. Yeah, maybe TO HIM, but not to me.
I can be nice ( sometimes ;0)  ) and I turned the tv off and then tried to fall to sleep. DIDN'T HAPPEN! 
Speaking of sleep....I'm cutting into the flying squirrels PLAY TIME. He sleeps days and plays all night. awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
So anyway......Eleven comes and I listen to see if she comes out of her room to check on the boys. NADDA! I'm sure she was in "dreamland " long before this time. Hubby woke to pee. I rose and went to remind the boys what hour it was, which got hubby going and he's yelling out that Kenny won't be staying over if they can't follow the rules. He gets back into bed and notices that his covers are up against me and accuses me of taking all the covers. LET ME TELL YOU THIS....today I want him to give me a demonstration on how he gets in and out of bed without throwing his covers back as he INSISTED at that hour that he DOES NOT DO. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr  Which brought me to the breaking point and I'm yelling that twin beds are in the near future for us. If ONLY it was possible with this damn pier wall headboard. sighhhhhhhh
He drops back off to sleep and I can see the flickering of the tv in the parlor against the diningroom wall from where I lay. Okay...so they were quiet...if not asleep.. Andddddddddddddddd I layed there trying to get comfortable and  kept trying and hoping to fall asleep. In my mind I kept arranging and re-arranging where I would put furniture in my livingroom IF I EVER had a livingroom again and what style of furniture would fit best in that room.  My legs felt like BRICKS.HEAVY BRICKS!  Every muscle in my body must have been tense. twelve thirty found me up to use the bathroom. TV was off, but I could see Logan using his phone to ??? play games, chat on Facebook, whatever. He was quiet.
I did drop off to sleep. Pain in my rt.arm and legs kept waking me and I'd change positions and re-position the pillows I had under my arm and between my legs. Minutes before three a.m. ( alarm clock time) hubby wakes to pee. This woke me enough to shut the alarm off before it went off and give hubby his pain meds.
More shifting in bed and I managed to sleep fitfully between the pain and lack of sleep.
THEN CAME.....5 A.M. Hubby wakes IN PAIN and has to pee again. He insists I did not give him his pain meds at 3 a.m. like I.  told him I did.WHY am I in so much pain if you gave me them, he yells. Up I get and go get him two more. ( I keep the 3 a.m. pain pills on  my nightstand, just so I won't have to get up and out of bed. ) The visiting nurse told me that his orders are for Tylenol 325 mg between pain meds, but hubby says they can stick them up their ass as they don't do a fucking thing to HELP HIS PAIN. 
 He has to struggle to rise ( always ) and it takes some time with him making constand audible grunts and groans ( sometimes I think he doesn't even know he is doing it ) and the bed wiggles and shakes. Okay...I know he has medical problems,   LOTS!  He sits on the throne and sits and sits moaning and groaning as he usually does. Sometimes he uses a flashlight to check to see if the urine flow has stopped as he can't tell.  I laid there hoping to get some more sleep after he got back in bed and I HEAR ...The crinkling noise of the fucking dog cookie package and lift my body to turn and observe what I think I am going to observe.
I gave hubby a look that could kill as I jumped out of bed saying "you have to be fucking shitting me."
"What", he says . Looking for all the world like it's the NORMAL thing to do at 5 a.m.
Ginger was getting excited...tail wagging. The other two dogs were at the other end of the house still asleep. One of them pissed on my bedroom RAG/rug during the night and I'm drying to sop that up , all the while speaking my mind as to what the hell he was doing at that hour. ( Lady has been in here to be let out twice since I began typing and now she just entered our room checking to see if hubby is awake.) I swear....these dogs line up and keep staring up at him on the bed waiting to see a sign of life out of him ( which gets them eager ) every time they see a movement out of him. It's like vultures waiting for some poor thing to die. sighhhhh
Where was I??? Hubby is yelling at me to go to back to sleep, telling me that I can take naps like he does any time I want to. HUH! I tried to fall back to sleep...I really did. Then a headache reared it's ugly head.
Up I got and opened up my nightstand to retrieve Excedrin Migraine, made my way to the kitchen for a cup of water and made me some COFFEE and.....HERE I SIT!
Hubby woke once and blurted out, " I thought you wanted to sleep!" Then fell back to sleep instantly.
It's now 7:20 a.m. and the muscles in the right side of my neck are so tense I have some serious burning and shooting pain there.
I'm on my second cup of coffee.
IS THIS HELL?????
Some months back I toyed with the idea of taking off when I was  in a HUFF to a motel to get SOME SLEEP and bought myself an overnight bag.
That's NOT ME!  While the idea sounded good at the time...it's JUST NOT ME!
Every single thing that I ran from would still be here upon my return. Besides...IT'S JUST NOT ME!
The bedroom ....is still not occupyable. Son Randy worked for hours yesterday hooking heat pipes up to that room under the house ( in the crawl space ). Dirty efffin job. Cleared all his tools out of that room. Stored the Coleman boat under that room as well as put the siding we can't use yet under there as well to keep it good UNTIL?????
   Jill just woke to pee.7:32 a.m.
Butch hired a friend to put a new rubber roof over that room ( my Christmas gift) I bought all the new materials to the tune of more than another grand to have that roof done right. Sometime around 10 a.m. the NEW/OLD roof of 2 months will be torn off ( particle board and all ) and the CORRECT wood that should have been under that rubber roof will be put up there. Butch and Randy are helping to do the work. Randy is picking up the materials and Butch is gathering his tools needed to do this work early this morning.  Yesterday the two of them got into it over the weather required to lay a rubber roof. Randy says NAY. Butch says YAY to today.
Oh... did I mention that Randy took the bathroom door off to paint some areas unreachable when it was on it's hinges....JUST AS I NEEDED TO SHOWER to go to the chiropractor.  yeah...that was FUN. NOT! He aims a fan at the wet paint to dry it faster....hubby decides he needs to walk to the kitchen sink to excercise and the fan is in his way. It made for an interesting morning. I shit you not!
UT OH! I hear heavy rain on the roof.
Where does this leave the work to be done this morning? Rain, rain, go away!

My doll crib rails have dried out and dropped out of the holes they belong in. :0( Once hubby was good at repairs and could fix just about anything. Now...he can't see to good to do any repairs sitting down and BIG repairs are out of the question. Last night before Randy left I asked him if he would fix it and he said he would take it home with him tonight and do it. :0)
Tracie gave me this old doll crib of hers that was up in her parent's attic and the doll my sister made me before she died, fits in it so well. It's just a doll and crib to some people, but to me.........something visual and tangible of my sister's labor of love for me.
Jill just put Cash out to pee and is making herself her tea.
Hubby is moaning and MOANING in his sleep. sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
7:54 a.m. Hubby has moaned and groaned himself awake and is struggling to rise and get .....he made it...hear the sound of pee.
I gave up on emptying his potty everytime he peed during the night and have learned to block the smell of urine out.

Things are such at upheavel and I can't see THE END of it any time soon.

7:57 the phone just rang and Jill answered it.  WHO? WHOM?
Randy seeing if anyone was there yet to start the job. Ended his call with ...if anyone shows up, call me and let me know.
Jill called and woke him up at nine to tell him that Butch was here. sighhhhhhhhhhhh   Then Butchie's friend showed up. It's been decided that they will return after eleven when the rain is suppose to end. hmmmmmmmmmmmmm  9:56 a.m.  and from the sounds on my bedroom roof...the rain isn't letting up anytime soon. :0(
I've been moving things from Point A to Point B.  Getting nowhere fast. :0(  Opened the livingroom coat closet to put cans of paint, etc. in there. Felt the URGE to get them up off my diningroom floor and out of sight...BUT NOT out of mind!  Opened said door and whoaaaaaaaaa  ...looks like Gil has moved in. Clothes on hangers all across the closet.  Knew he had 2 suitcases of clothes  in my livingroom. So much for getting Jill's clothes out of my closet as I had hoped. I'm throwing in THE TOWEL! We have a full storage tub of baby clothes and things in the parlor for when Jill watches the baby.  Where we are putting them???  I have no idea.
STUFF,STUFF and MORE SHIT! Mentally it's wearing me out. I shit you not!
Yeah....I know. REMIND ME... Family is what it's all about. Yeah, right!
I love my family, I love my family.... I do, I do.

Imagine that!  I just looked at our bed ( that I haven't been in sice 5 a.m. and the covers on hubby's side are pushed to where I'd be laying. How did that happen? Yeah....hubby says it beats him too.
He gives me such a fucking argument about me stealing his covers and all I get now in regards to how that happened is a soft spoken...I don't know and he goes back to reading the newspaper. I'd like to slap him up against the head with it. ;0)

The Magic Hour of eleven a.m. is just about upon me. The rain has stopped for now.
Moi BAD! I thought Butch was paying the $250 to his friend. NOT! His labor is MY GIFT.  Do I give a shit! Hell NO!
Maybe I'll be cute and put a receipt by his plate when Jill makes a meal he shares in . ( Which is often ) Wonder when he last made out and puchased a grocery order. YEAH!  MOI make a  FUNNY HA HA.

Son Terry calls from Kingston,NH wishing us a Happy New Year and asking me how I make Shrimp Scampi. ONE of the steps  I do is....beat a few eggs and on a plate mix bread crumbs with lots of basil , bread the shrimp and fry it lightly in olive oil. I hear Nancy yelling from another room, "does your mother keep the olive oil in the fridge?"  I don't. Right or wrong, I DON'T! Same with canola, vegetable and any other type of oil. He is telling her that in Italy they didn't even have refrigeration until ten or twenty years ago. AHEM
I'm hoping...he was just joking.

I'm exhausted. If I were to lay down, I bet I'd have no probem sleeping through the RACKET that is about to occur. I shit you not!

No sounds coming from up on my roof at 11:42 a.m. WTF!

Think I'll take my B/P and decide if I should lay done to die...or just lay down.

Happy New Year!

That's All Folks!      OOPSIE this didn't post yesterday. :0(

D D As the stomach ...churns

Too much goes on during my days, but I'll try to touch on a few and spare us both PRECIOUS TIME.
I'm having trouble reading my own blog when I review it, so let's go up to this size in print and hopefully I will remember to do this. ;0)
I'll touch briefly on the house DISREPAIR.
That bedroom isn't ready to move into yet! Randy still hasn't hooked up the heat vents running to that room, but that isn't what is keeping it un-occupyable. Yesterday the electrical inspector came after being called and signed off. Next to sign off would be the fire department. I called and was told January 9th would be the earliest someone could come to check out the fire alarms.
Butch was here TO SAVE THE DAY and called another number and spoke to another person and he came out before noon. :0)
:0( Bad news was....the electrician I hired was certified in both MA and NH and two of the fire alarms he installed were not legal in MA any longer. MA only allows Photo? and NH allows ionized? , so a call was made to the electrician who has so far ignored Butch' message.    sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
ALSO, he did not put the first one as you enter the front door TO PLAN DRAWN, but because there is not 20 feet from anywhere in this old house ...it is going to be overlooked. :0)  
Having lived through a fire that left a hole in the ground where my home stood at age 7/8, my greatest fear is FIRE.
I want what is determined to be best by the state of MA and if I have to buy these more expensive units....so be it.
Once that is done, this fireman will return and sign off.
 NEXT to sign off would be someone to sign off on the occupancy of that room.  Until then.............................

Three days ago son Randy was working on the siding outside my bedroom and ......holy shit.  Half way up he encountered rotten wood. Lots of rotten wood. Was unable to drive a nail through it if he was inclined to. Immediately made a call to my insurance company. It was CLOSED Monday...of course, but they got my messsage and someone called me Tuesday. My insurer told me that my policy only covers 10K of water damage a policy year and I was paid that for the other section of the house.This person in not so many words warned me that with more claims my insurance company might ? ( left unspoken ) Less claims was better. 
Once Randy tore some of the rotten wood off, it was discovered it wasn't water damage, it was termites/carpenter ants ? Soooooooooooooo do I want to call them back and ask what they cover for termite/carpenter ant damage  orrrrrrrrrrrrrrr SUCK IT UP?   I'm on the fence. sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Randy could go no further. Between hin and Butch they discovered that the entire side has to be replaced and doing it in this cold climate ( tearing out the walls ) would not be condusive to hubby's health. ) brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
A tie down and boards are covering up a gaping section. Real attractive. NOT!
Wasn't long before son Randy brought a friend to give me an estimate. I knew Wally from years back and he owned a body shop until four years ago and sold it and became a home repair man.
Nothing against him, but NO THANKS. I told Randy I won't be doing anything until warmer weather and I will find my own repairman.  He seemed to accept that. Personally he doesn't have a leg to stand on after hiring this last Gonzoles BOZO.   It's looking like the siding won't be completed until ...............who knows when.

Hey, things are looking up! Unbeknownst to moi that electrician did get the message and dropped by moments ago to replace those fire alarms. :0)

Heard from Jill that the EX SIL FROM HELL is having his house locks changed so that Gil can't get in. WTF????  Is this is way of retaliating????  Oh yeah...less I forget. My way or the highway is his motto. His way of putting the pressure on his son to go to court TO RETRACT his statement made as a nine year old.  What a sick bastard!
I have no doubt that he will succeed in his endeavor.
I'm holding no hope out, less I set myself up for a severe letdown. I shit you not!

Tracie came soon after we ate supper around 6:30.  We had plenty leftovers and she ate and stayed til 9:30. sighhhhhhhhhh
I did not retain the words she used to explain what she was told. There are cells there that should not be there, BUT they are not cancer cells and she has to be watched closely and take a certain med for six months I think she said. There are two kinds of meds to treat with and they have to decide which one is best to use on her and later next month she will be given an RX. She is scared....OF COURSE   These cells show up before cancer cells????
   Which brings me to....lately I have been thinking that at any minute, I could cease to be.  POOF!
Sheeeeeeeeeesh.  While I have realized my own mortality long ago, it's more present in my waking hours the older I get. Especially of late.   SO MUCH is taken for granted by me. sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
HEY...I have unfinished business....does that make me different than anyone else?????????????????????????? :0(

Hoping that Jill will start removing their gifts from that bedroom and taking down the trees and readying it for occupancy. Bureaus COULD BE put in there. :0) I hate to prod and make suggestions.
I look around and get disgusted. sighhhhhhhhhhhhhh
So much needs to be done INSIDE AND OUTSIDE! 
   Apparently as I understand it, Julie gave her the insurance info and she is going to submit it to the dentist and HOPE that the monies get sent to her and NOT JULIE.  I wasn't counting on getting a cent back, but it would be nice. i shit you not!
Both of us have thought...what if. What if the insurance company does re-imburse for some of his dental bill and JULIE and the EX SIL FROM HELL get the check.
I told her I would be royaly pissed off if they cash that check and keep the monies. She had said something to me the other day about me wanting her to move into his ( Butchie's  place and I told her it wasn't so much as that I wanted her to move out, it was that I wanted more co-operation from her and her to take more responsiblity and NOT EXPECT me to pay FOR EVERYTHING. Not fair to me. I have other kids. She needs to go to court and contribute to this household. Something/anything!!!!!
 My parting words were , " I thought it was me you loved" and it seems that you love him by your non actions.

Called my son Larry and thanked him and Sombay for my gifts the other night. I like to voice my appreciation and not let my kids think I take it for granted they will remember my birthday and Christmas.
He aplogized for being in a bad mood. Then he asked me if Randy had his girlfriend living with him. UT OH! Told a lil white lie. Don't know. He will be inquiring he told me as he only charges him the lot rent and makes no money off of him being ( somewhat sensitive ) to his income and EATS the insurance and trailer tax bill which isn't right or fair to him. Approx a grand a year. True....very true. Debbie hasn't been able to work in a year and only gets food stamp assistance, but that won't cut the mustard with Larry. sighhhhhhh
While what Randy has done to improve his trailer and lot is appreciated, BUT he feels they are more than EVEN ....Him less so than Randy on this trade off. sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Minutes after ten a.m. Randy showed up to hook up the heat in that bedroom. :0) I saw Jill gazing in the room and hinted that things needed to be made ready for move in. ;0)
Also took this opportunity to tell Randy what his brother was inquiring as to. He told me he pays $50 a month extra towards the insurance and tax. While all is good....he could not live as cheaply ANYWHERE ELSE. He pays his brother around $400 a month. WOW!  While Larry is aware of Randy's disabilities, he thinks Randy is living better than him and he could sell the trailer and pay off the mortgage that is left on Sombays house. So true....but I hope he keeps CARRYING HIS BROTHER even though I myself know not why he should other than for MY SAKE. Thank you Larry.

 Next in the parade of charactors was the building inspector who showed us that before he can SIGN OFF...... the gas, sewer, water ,conservation and about five others have to check N/A and sign off as we had none of that in our plans done. Then he will...come back.  Meantime Randy headed out to buy duct work and I see no signs of anything else being done.
I can't wait for this day to end so that I can see my chiropractor tomorrow. The right side of my neck is OUT and I have been wearing a hot pack around my neck. Glamorous,NOT!
I went from February 1st til June or July without any adjustments  and THEN with only two visits between then and December and now I AM PAYING THE PIPER!
IT's Free to me for krist sake! If I was double jointed...I'd kick my own ass. ;0)
Jill just made corn muffins. ummmmmmmmmm um good.

That's All Folks!

D D Hubby and I are reverting back

to our first year of life. We seem to have our days and nights mixed up. ;0)
At 4 a.m. we were both WIDE AWAKE . Here it is an hour later and he has two cups of coffee in him and I have one in me.
I woke before him with this massive toothache down the entire length of my right leg ( per usual as of late ) and tried to fall back to sleep. And tried......and tried. No position was good.
He woke having to pee. It takes him a bit of time to move his body to the position he can get himself up and off the bed and then....he sat and sat and sat. No GOLD RUSH. I shit you not! 
During this time I took the opportunity to make my coffee and when he saw me with coffee , he wanted some .  Thought it might help him to pee.  NOT!

Us OLD TIMERS really know HOW TO HAVE A GREAT MORNING. ;0)

I was surprised to see Jill was awake and had her tv on. Around 3 a.m. I heard her put Cash and Lady out to do their thing.

Was even more surprised to see that Gil was awake and watching tv in the parlor. His tooth pain had him awake. At noon today he will have extraction #5. It was decided by the dentist that his molar wasn't saveable AFTERALL. More expense to do what should have been done a week ago when the 4 wisdom teeth came out. Merry Christmas  ? ? DMD.  

    We beat our neighbor ( the friendly ones that have been here longer than us and are older than we are ) up. They rise and shine like clock work at 5 a.m.

Jane and Art must be wondering and worried something is wrong here with hubby.
    Just heard the light sounds that told me hubby has dozed off . ;0) Overhead light on isn't keeping him awake. ;0)

Tracie called from the train station around 6 p.m. and Jill went to pick her up in her pj's.
Left Bangor,ME around eleven a.m. by bus and once she arrived in Boston, she had to take the train from there to here. She had left her car parked in her old driveway across the street which worked out fine as no one lives there. As she tells it...she didn't have a good time at her nieces. Her sister ( nieces mother ) was there the whole two days and she and her sister do not have a good relationship. Her sister is an alcoholic.
KNEW... I should not have thrown the wonderful meal that I cooked for hubby and myself in case she was hungry after that long trip .....and I didn't. She thoroughly enjoyed what was left in the pan that I slaved over the stove to make. Two boxes of Kraft macaroni and cheese dinner.  Ain't I a BIG DEAL!  ;0)
When hubby was working, I could  never have got away with that. He needed his MEAT !  Now....he actually wants and enjoys it once in awhile. When I asked him before I took a pan out ( strenuous thing to do ya know ) he said," That would be good. I haven't had that in awhile." MUSIC TO MY EARS.  ;0) I shit you not! 
I'm expecting him to wake any minute now. He is becoming more and more rattley with his breathing and needs to clear his nose. Sinus' ? Cold ?

SIL Dana called me last night to thank me profusely and from his heart for making Christmas at their house. Hurts and sucks to not be able to provide what your family needs, he said. Yep, I know. I'm very thankful that I can help them out more than I could before. :0)
Eleven year old Trevor ( Bless his heart ) told them when he was down to his last gift to open , this is the best Christmas ever even if I didn't get my laptop. Last gift was a LAPTOP and it pushed him over the edge in GLEE.  In my mind I can envision him. :0) Christmas is for kids.
   Seeing and hearing Jill and Cheryl speaking to each other ( while they will probably never be close ) after three , four years of holding grudges and refusing to speak to each other is a gift to moi.
Cheryl is down to a size 5 jean. I HATE HER...;0)  She eats right and exercizes.:0)   I DON"T! :0(

Six a.m. and all is well in my part of the world.
I'm going to be a mess later today from lack of sleep. sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
A second cup of coffee sounds good to me right now. Maybe even read yesterdays newspaper. BBL


Much later....like Wednesday evening. 
More "flies in the ointment" so to speak. Just too weary to write about it .
This broken sleep and constant leg pain has me down, BUT NOT OUT.  Went and got adjusted today and will go again Friday. I AM GOING TO BE GOOD TO MYSELF! :0) 

   Tracie had a doctor appointment in regards to what they found in her biopsy. It's 6:15 p.m. and LATE for her to come as her pattern is to normally come around 4 and stay til at least ten. :0( While I am glad to have this time for myself...I am worried about the news she got today.  sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

That's All Folks!

  

D D Restless in Massachusetts

Woke in pain and having to pee right around 1 a.m. Laid there trying to fall back to sleep.and this finds me still awake. sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
When I got back into bed ( one small space at the edge ) , hubby had one of his hands under my back and moaned that I was hurting his hand. HUH???? Good thing that I felt like I had slept all night cause there was no way I was falling back to sleep. Did I conk out at 9 p.m. ? Mabe even eight? One minute I was watching Life In The ER and WHAMMO!  Headed straight for the Keurig and here I sit at my laptop which I managed to find room for in front of the Apple ( whatever it's called.) The White Elephant is more like it to me. :0(  I don't feel like wasting any of my precious time learning this system and it will become Logan's and in his bedroom ASAP.
He has decided ( on that note ) the keyboard is not so bad afterall. :0)

Will probably feel like shit later today. I shit you not!

Was happy to see the last of my family leave last night. I'm sitting here listening to just the sound of the squirrel on his wheel , happily spinning around. When he stops running .....SILENCE.
 SILENCE can BE GOOD!

Heavily on my mind is what young Gil will eventually do. Succumb to his dad and go before a judge and deny what he saw at age nine orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
That SOB knew when he went to law school that in order to take the bar exam he needed his felony record expunged ( just like I did ) and he had it all figured out. Will my son deny me the opportunity to become a criminal attorney with me having spent these past 3 1/2 years working towards.   I THINK NOT!     At age 9 when his mother was screaming out when she could get a breath of air " Call 911 " and his father was screaming " Don't you dare. Get in the fucking truck."  He did what dad said. he didn't witness his dad holding his screaming baby brother Logan over his mother lying on the kitchen floor after he wrested Logan away from her and let him puke all over her , laughing as he kept kicking her.
He told exactly what he saw to the District Attorneys office. Then at trial two years later dad and his criminal defense attorney were priming and coaxing him for the trial to change his story. After a gut wrenching time of three, four, five???? delays in the start of the trial and poor Gil emotionally distraught every time he got served a subpeona to testify for HIS FATHER....the second day of the trial when it was getting to the time that young Gil would have to take the stand, his attorney FINALLY took that SOB outside of the courtroom and told him he would be making a big mistake. Judges do not like to see kids on the stand testifying against another parent.
OMG ...when he came back into the courtroom his face was so RED and he was shaking his head and looking for all the world, PISSED OFF AS ALL HELL and took the plea that had been offered to him DAY ONE. He told the judge, his attorney made him take the plea. With that the judge went over everything again with him and he decided it was HIS DECISION. RELUCTANTLY, I might add. His body was shaking with RAGE.
Jill had World WAR One and Two before this trial and it then became WORLD WAR THREE and it hasn't ended even though she had wavered more than 20K in past due child support and has not taken him back to court for non support in at least 5 years. Occasionally she does get a small amount sent to her from his wife Julie. How that is justified I know not of. Showing Attempt to pay?????  She/Julie gets child support for her nine year old son and takes her ex back into court when needed. GO FIGURE!
NOW young Gil is twenty one. While his mother will not suffer any penalty if he says he lied about what his father did to his mother or HE DID NOT SEE IT HAPPEN ( was not in the room witnessing him strangling her ) what will she feel like??? At nine you can understand that your child is A CHILD. At TWENTY ONE ??????? 
Will it just be ME that feels pain at seeing my daughter's pain being re-visited?
I'm sorry, but I will not be able to look at my grandson in the same light if he does.

Hubby woke seconds before three when the alarm clock went off to use his potty.  Had severe stomach pain. Took a dump and threw the wipes in the bucket. While those say FLUSHABLE ...I sometimes wonder if that is what causes our toilet to plug up. sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh  Wasn't about to pick them out of that bucket. I shit you not!
Still was complaining of having severe stomach pain as he got back into bed. Then he wanted the space heater on... he's fucking freezing, he said. . I'm sitting here without a robe on...the temp reads 80 in this room and he says, " I don't give a fuck, Turn the heater on." sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh 
Now I just heard out of his mouth, " What...no coffee!" Which gave me cause to remind him it was 3:30 a.m.  So much for.........my peace and quiet. I shit you not!\
No sooner does he tell me that I can turn off the overhead light than he wants me to look at his baby finger. He had put some Balmex on it and I could see it was shiny red ( like an infection maybe.) Got him the Cortizone 10 and I put it on as he was having trouble seeing where I dabbed the cream. The he decided when I offered that he would have ONE CUP of coffee and then go back to sleep. By the time I perked HIS COFFEE and came back into the room, he was asleep. sighhhhhhhhhh Woke him ;0)  It's minutes before 4 a.m. and I can hear his cookie wrapper as he takes a cookie out of a sleeve..behind where I'm sitting in the high back computer chair. I may not be able to see behind my back....BUT I CAN HEAR BEHIND MY BACK! ;0)
   The rest of the house is sleeping . Jill let Lady and Cash out around 1 a.m. Gil used the bathroom close to two a.m. and when I went to my Kuerig I could hear Butch and Jill talking.
She seemed happy when I first saw her after she got THE RING. SO DID HE! Yesterday they both seemed happy . He brought Alex here for her gifts. She had gifts from Santa at his place and here.
I think she liked her overhead projector that Santa gave her. Santa must get alot of requests for an overhead projector from eight year olds. ;0) Clothes from a certain girl's clothing store ( I forget the name of ) he asked Jill to buy ( his money ) while he was working Christmas Eve day. Last minute shopping !
$35 for a little white shrug. The skirt and top ??? Sequins and flounce and adorable and, and, and  Pricey! I shit you not! To die for. I want to be a little kid again ! sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
When I inquired as to why jill accepted the ring that he promised he wouldn't give her....she told me there were many stipulations that went with accepting it and she knows his promises won't last long. WHAT EVER!
Yesterday he was pissed off at his drunken roommate and was saying to me and anyone within hearing distance that he wanted him OUT. Moi reminded him that he helped to pay their rent . Yeah, but I'm going to work as many side jobs and do whatever it takes to pay the rent and utilities on my own., he said.  
BIG WORDS. ;0)  I WISH HIM LUCK! I shit you not!
When he cutely mentioned to me that they were staying IN all day, I was just as cute in reminding him that I haven't lived these past 74 years without aquiring the knowledge that THE BARS ARE CLOSED Christmas Day. ;0)

Hubby rose to pee again. It's now 4:15 a.m. His pisser is working! Earlier he thought his stomach pain was due to the fact that he needed to be catherized. NOT!  I could do it, but doing it when it is un-necessary will quite likely cause a UTI and he doesn't NEED THEM. While a hospital stay would give me some what of a break..... it will set him back and neither of us need that.
He can continue to think I am neglecting him.....and complain to the visiting nurse orrrrrrrrrrrr whomever. She/they understand . When asked if he is able to VOID on his own...he doesn't know that word. Asked if he is able to PEE on his own, he tells them he can. Bingo...no need to catheritize him.  I empty his commode and urinal enough to TESTIFY TO THAT. I shit you not!
   Awhile earlier I reached up high into a bathroom cupboard for  tissues for him with my right arm. Holy Shit...the pain.  So much for those cortizone injections...this time. :0(   Better than ten years back they were  the answer to my prayers. sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Four thirty seven a.m. As I stretch my neck around ( ouchie ) to look at hubby...his eyes are closed.When I rise to shut the overhead light off now....lets see if he stays asleep. I hear light snoring. He never was a loud snorer. That's a PLUS! 
 Will make a third cup of java for myself while I am up. :0(

My son Larry was in a mood when he and Sombay came Christmas Eve. Negative,Negative. As his eyes fell on the two beds in the parlor. ( it's a bunk bed. ) Now two single beds. I found myself defending myself.   Logan's bed and sometimes Gil stays and he sleeps in the other one. He tells me that none of them should be here. Maybe so, BUT it's my choice! He went on some more about it. My Toyota...well I should have asked him what to buy. His son Larry,Jr just bought a Hundai, 35 miles to the gallon and it beats a Toyota all to shit.  So much for congratulations on your new car purchase mom. Poor Sombay was trying to soften the blow from his stinging  words....with... lifes too short ;0)  Bless her little pea picken heart. How she lives with him is beyond me. I shit you not!
He may be a non smoker/non drinker and good provider, BUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That ain't everything. I shit you not!
Thankfully ...I don't see him often, even though he only lives approx 7 miles away.
Sombay is ALL ABOUT FAMILY. He..not so much , although he is heavily involved with his son and is always helping him improve his house and property. Plus they four wheel together and go out salt water fishing on his big boat and all kinds of other recreational stuff.
A few years ago ( I'm sure at Sombays urging ) they would take their grandson Ryu to eat Chinese food here in town once a week and pick me up. Listening to his negativity , I don't miss it although I loved being included.
What I NOTICE makes him BEAM with pride and joy is Ryu and Krista , Sombays youngest son Noels two and four year old children and sometimes his son Larry's five year old Jessica. :0)
That and his love for and OF animals in my mind softens his hard edges.

Five ten...I never got up to make cup #3 and I'm keeping my poor squirrel asleep. Night time/darkness is when he plays.
Heard a car door,,,made my way to shut the overhead light off, checked to see if our cars were in the driveway ;0) , peed and made another cup of coffee. Heard hubby's voice and ran back. "Keep me warm, Come back to bed." Told him I had just made a cup of coffee to which he muttered "that's more important." No sooner were the words from my lips "no it's not"
 spoken , he dropped right back to sleep. sighhhhhhhhhhhhh
    Hear the A/C running in Jill's room each time I go to that end of the house and GIL has a floor fan pointed towards his bed. Each and EVERY NIGHT.  I myself, can't escape this life sucking heat. :0(  

Things are coming to the front of my mind....like when I asked Jill why she accepted the ring after saying she wouldn't. Didn't want him wrapping himself around a telephone pole as he threatened to. He was up and down on his knee in front of the limo driver on the pier by the Anchor every time I said NO. There are a hundred stipulations attached to my accepting the ring and I know he will Fuck Up.   He always does.  She herself admits she has been SINGLE too long. Is set in HER WAYS!  I'll be truthful here, he has gotten far less from this relationship than she has. I don't mean in monetary ways, either. He has suffered mental abuse and THEN SOME.
If ONLY his choice of recreation wasn't A BAR .....sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Who rushed to her side with ear stuff  and administered flushing out her ears when they were plugged up the other day. Not once, BUT THREE TIMES. Who cared for her day and night and stayed by her side in the hospital when her nose wouldn't stop bleeding.
He does love her....he isn't good for her... and she definately isn't good for him or TO HIM.
Do I have to keep on that boy/mans ass every time he messes up? Will ....I shit you not! Like it or lump it!  If I see it or hear of it.... I'm speaking my mind. Same goes for HER!  I want off this ROLLER COASTER ride.  WAKE UP and smell the coffee!
This isn't a One Way Street!

6:03 Butch got up to use the bathroom and Cash and Lady needed another piss call. I hear others stirring. Gil is in quite a bit of pain with that tooth that will come out Tuesday.
I let my son Larry know that I will be paying for that and did for his molars. He attended the EX SIL's Graduating Law School party and I'm sure he was filled in on that before I told him. He was on other stuff. He was a BUD before and since the divorce, but I never hear him talk well of the EX SIL FROM HELL. At least to me he doesn't !  They both....USE EACH OTHER!  Both are bitter about having to pay child support , although my sons obligation to his son ended in 1991 when his only child turned eighteen.
Damnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn   

Hubby woke and requested that the space heater be turned back on a half hour ago. Promptly fell back to sleep and I didn't get up to do it. . ;0) 

Snapped a few pictures of the baby yesterday and Randy finally downloaded ( if I can find out where ) the pictures he took when I bought my car.

I hadn't even brushed my hair and didn't realize it was my camera my grandson Ryan was using to take this and a few more pictures. ;0)  Nana still in her night clothes; missing my winter cap. He's the sly one.

and my personal favorite, Uncle Logan holding Gavin

It felt soooooooooooooooooooooo good to hold a baby again. :0)

Daylight is making its appearance. Everyone, EXCEPT FOR  hubby is awake. Cash and Lady keep coming into our bedroom,  checking to see if it's Cookie Time. ;0)  Ginger isn't stirring. She will sleep until she hears the cookie sleeve crinkling sound.  Her mama didn't raise no fool. ;0)

Tis Monday...the day after Christmas and all is well.  Just another day in MY FUNNY FARM.
Seeing everyone happy with their gifts was a gift to me. Think I only have one thing to return. Logan's dress shoes were too narrow to get his feet into. He loved, loved loved the dress shirt and tie.
He's one that always loved getting clothes no matter what time of the year it was. :0)
Hubby got his hand picked assorted chocolates from moi and I have his CASH and the CHECK BOOK.
I'm a HAPPY CAMPER, I shit you not! ;0)

7:10 a.m. Hubby is up to pee and the dogs are Happy Campers. ;0)  He peed, rose to get back in bed and had to sit back down and peed again. Old age is not being kind to either of us. :0( 
He's requesting...coffee and THE SPACE HEATER TURNED ON and HE is out of his cookies, so I will grab a box n  my way back from making him coffee and reluctanly turn that heater on. . . 
It's also med time.
Butch has left to work his twenty four hour shift at the fire station.

AND for moi... It's 8 a.m.. Ohhhhh my efffin sciatic nerve and another day to live " THE DANCE "

That's All Folks!

D D Some Maxine's Merry Christmas

Our Ho Ho Ho Room.

That's All Folks!