D D Round and round the Mulberry Bush we go

First....Cash . Age 1 on February 9,2012

Someone had a sore belly after eating leftover prime rib and birthday cake the night before. He wasn't himself in the morning. Just laid around. Perked up later in the day. Must be " the age!" wink,wink


Kathy came around 9:30 to wash hubby up at the bathroom sink. When i heard her say, "hi,Pat " when she stepped inside...I thought it was Tracie. She sounded so much like her. Enough to make my heart skip a beat. sighhhhhhhh     Jill had showered already. I needed to. After Kathy left,  hubby tied it up to shit. Next Gil needed to void/whatever. How did I ever make it out of here with nine kids ......with my mind and ONLY ONE BATHROOM??? Eleven twenty was closing in on me and hubby takes his towel wrap ( pull up under it ) walker trip down to the sink. Gil and the WB were in the parlor, Jill was in her bedroom. He began a discussion about different towns and different people he knew that had kids there ( we had already gone this route ) (told him the people he knew years ago had  kids that were mentally challenged and Gil was not going to Belchertown. He was going to Georgetown. To be quite frank, Jill didn't need to hear this Rat Trap talk from him...she had plenty on her mind for what was to lie ahead....and I told him we had this discussion yesterday. He did not have to go over it with her....what didn't he get? Belchertown and Georgetown are NOT ONE IN THE SAME!  Fuck you,he yells at me. I can talk if I want to. What am I doing wrong. yadda yadda yadda.  Told him nothing wrong, but him being down that end of the house makes me apprehensive to go and take my shower.   Why, why, more go fuck yourselfs , more I'm doing nothing wrong spoken indignantly.   Later Jill admitted to me that when she hears his walker coming into the kitchen , she too feels apprehensive. Is it going to be good talk orrrr bad talk, she worries to herself.  After my shower...upon entering our bedroom he once again wanted to know what he has done wrong.  . I asked him why he apologized to both of us. " For my swearing , he said.   Are we going that route again, I exclaimed.  Told him that he needed to find out what is going on with his brain. Indignant and defiant, he said, I'm not going into a hospital and you can't make me. I can't see how they can make me either.  Not having time to go into it ....I said no more.
On my short drive I thought to myself. I'll tell him that in doing so, it will make me feel better if I learned this is something beyond his control.  You would think that you would want to get to the bottom of what is happening.   That's how I'm going to approach it the next time....and we all know that there will be a next time. Round and round we go. sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
When I left, I told Jill to not worry about leaving him alone. Go .... when they call you to go and I will be going for groceries after my chiro visit.   Two hours later, $150 poorer and a stop included in that same strip mall to The Paper Store ( eye candy galore )....I  came home. I did not worry about him...okay once that I can think of he did come into my mind....I did not hurry, I enjoyed myself and even took my Weight watcher Point Counter out and used it when I picked up items that looked good/healthy, but I had never eaten. Some I kept in my cart...others had too high of a Point Count to even give consideration.  EVEN...passed by ( but eyeballed ) milk chocolate covered pretzels.
:0(     Some day.... ;0)  Fed hubby and myself lunch and Logan was in the door from school shortly after.  Tried a repeat of the day before and layed on my bed at 3 to watch Dr.Phil. Missed the last 15 minutes of it. Dozed off and woke to the front door shutting at 4:30. Got up and made my way to the door and saw Logan leaving with his dad.
Called Jill...Gil was admitted....she was on her way to nashua,NH to retrieve that IPAD from the "hock shop" and give the proprietor a piece of her mind. I'm fairly sure that she won't be home any time soon.  The W.B. is with her. Gil is in someone elses caare, Logan is with his dad.  I don't need to say more.   Soooooooooooooooooo....that's where I am at now. Going to go cook hubby a nice steak on the G.Forman grille and myself a Smart One Dinner and load it with the cauliflower I steam cooked yesterday.  Will make hubby some asparagus to go with his steak and have some of that too. YUM! 
I'm soooooooooooooo glad I learned in my late twenties to eat all kinds of veggies.  :0) BBL


9pm finds hubby snoozing.  Jill and Butch got back here around 7.  SOBER! :0)
Learned .....Jill made some calls yesterday to people on Gil's phone. I overheard one call. She prentended she was looking to buy for her friend Gil that needed a fix.  When she mentioned the first letter of this persons name " Q " to Gil and told him she knew he was his drug dealer , his eyes panicked. He told her that this guy was dangerous and everyone could be killed if she did anything stupid.  Holy Crap! There are some bad people out there!
  She and Butch went to one of his druggie friends houses that they knew Gil spent a few nights at. She's a prostitute. Living with a gangster that just got out of prison. She identified herself as Gil's mother and knowing he stayed there. Left some clothes there. Could she step in please. When the woman let her in...Jill could not believe the deplorable conditions and there were kids there, one as young as two years old maybe. DSS is going to be involved. I shit you not!
   Gil will be where he is 5 to 7 days and from there...I forget what I was told. I'll talk with her again tomorrow.  He can smoke when allowed and use the vending machines for non caffiene drinks. He can have visitors and she will see him tomorrow.  He will be put on Saboxon . Shot up heroin and cocaine since she asked him to leave here.  Took pecocet and other pills . He fessed up to everything he took this past week or so. The EX SIL from Hell asked one of the councelors if kids can come to visit.  Was told no one under twelve and with that Jill spoke up and told them "MY son Logan will not be coming here!". That was for her ex's ears mostly.
" Guess the kids won't be coming then", he replied. 
Jill told me that she wants Logan to think it is a terrible place. It isn't, she said. It's a lovely farm.  I don't know if that's the right way to discourage a child from doing drugs or not.... I'm not " the parent" though.   I put it out there to her that I would watch Erzi and Logan tomorrow if all of them are going to visit Gil. They will be in contact tomorrow. She can put it out there to him if she wants to. 

Going to call it a night. Morning comes early and with it is....coming SNOW.    UGH!


:0) Only a dusting...if that! :0) 

Been a busy day............Still learning the extent of the thievery from  his mother that she discovered JUST TODAY and she is reeling! .There are no words to describe her emotions, she said before she left to go visit him from 2-4 today. Her safe was EMPTY of every item of jewelry , some worth thousands. Her dad's mothers antique diamond earrings and antique ring.His diamond ring, diamond stud that her dad gave her. ( She has lost one over the years) One half karot each. All kinds of expensive jewelry from old flames. Baby ring ...even.  Diamond tennis bracelet. I am just now remembering some of her jewelry. PHEW! She is devastated and angry with herself for being so naive as to think that her son would never take her things so therefore...never checked until today when her ex mentioned a gold iron ( it was a solid gold charm given to her by her cousin as she had told him that she would never own an iron. )  How she is holding it all together today....is beyond me.   Then again...she isn't back from her visit with him. it's 4:39 p.m.
DIL Kim was here visiting when she checked her safe.The expression on her face when she emerged from her bedroom was undescribable. "I've lost everything, was the words she spoke in a monotone.   DIL Kim whispered to me....now she might know.... how you felt when she took YOUR MONEY to gamble.  Yep, I do think so. I shit you not!
Do we stop loving our child........NO, but something IS LOST in the relationship and it will take years to get over it. Life does go on after heartbreak and heartache. sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh and YES, I hurt for her. sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Still in pj's. Did some organizing under my kitchen sink and washed the windows standing up on a step stool  this morning. Will probably suffer with leg cramps tonight.  Such is life at 74. sighhhhhhhhh!
The W.B. did alot of whining to her when he came at 8 this morning. Always time for everyone else, but not for him I heard him whine.  I'm sure he will be over his mad by the end of the day after sitting in a bar and drinking.  She isn't in a "good mood".   Watch out...buddy! !!

This poster is for "the fireman.aka,W.B. "

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