That's what my son in FL tells me that I need to do. sighhhhhh
I gave up the bingo scene years ago as it stopped interesting me. Rough on the ass and legs sitting that length of time. I shit you not!
Tried the Senior Center in our town a few times in the past and found the women there clicky and the men grumpy. Who needs that! Not me!
Maybe once ( if ever ) the house gets back in order , I'll feel like doing yard work. Last night I went down the street to an electricians we had work on something in the past and asked if he would come and give me an estimate on wiring Jill's bedroom. Kevin said he would come this weekend. :0)
Jill cleaned the bathroom yesterday ( her first time ever to clean it fully to my knowledge ) and it looks so nice. I thanked her for making it look nice for me and I sincerely meant it.
Her ass will be dragging today as she babysits her grandson Gavin cause she went out with Butchie to eat and ? until after eleven. She was saying that she was tired before she went out.In fairness...she left after 9 p.m. Butchie wanted a MEAL, not the sandwiches and quick things she offered to make him. I swear...his paycheck goes almost entirely on FOOD and DRINK. Night before he dropped $79 between Jill, himself and his daughter at the Outback. PLUS THE TIP! He gave me the receipt as he knows I do The Rewards thingie at Outback on the internet. Every Point...adds up.
Son Randy worked on the side yard yesterday putting up fencing. Has just a few more sections to do and it looks great. Nice double doors ( gate). No meltdowns from him. :0)
Tracie came after seven and we went to eat at Applebees at her suggestion. It would be fine if she left afterwards, but she hung around another hour and a half once we got back here. Was just going to read the newspaper and leave. sighhhhh
I know...it's MY CALL.
Son in FL did the Social Security stuff for me. His friends wife works there in FL and he gave her all the info.
Still waiting on Local 25 to send the paperwork for his life insurance. All 25K of it.
John Hancock sent me MY death benefit info and paperwork instead of hubby's. Called them yesterday and they will send out his. All 3k and 7K. One thing I've learned is .....we didn't have enough life insurance, BUT THEN AGAIN...is it ever enough? I DON'T THINK SO!
Going to donate hubby's medical stuff, wheelchairs, walker, trapeze, etc to Habitat For Humanity. Another neighbor will load them into his truck for me today and deliver them. :0) Can't see letting this stuff go to waste in the yard when someone can use them.
It's 7 a.m. Almost time for Gavin to come. The day begins around here when that happens. Babies have a way of doing that. ;0)
(((hugs)))
That's All Folks!
I AM WOMAN! Hear me ROAR! February 2012
WARNING !! Not for those with a short attention span. ; 0 )
i think it will take some time to be interested again in some things...one step at the time Pat. I learned you can't rush things..i'm glad you are getting some help with the paperwork stuff and for the financial stuff, maybe a sit down with the adults living in your house and ask them to contribute....every penny counts. Big hugs my friend
ReplyDeleteI second the above comment. Everything will come in its own time...Hugs from Alabama..PS Great of you to donate,they are a very worthy cause.
ReplyDeleteThere is absolutely no reason at all for you to do 'should'. "Should" develop new interests, get out more, do this, do that.
ReplyDeleteGrief is a process and you are to allow yourself to do it your way. It is YOUR grief, and no one is qualified to advise YOU on how you handle things, how fast they need to be done, how soon you should 'get over it' or any of the above or anything I forgot.
It is a PERSONAL process. What you need are people to be there IF you need them and for them to NOT be there when you don't. Don't be afraid to ask them to leave you alone, don't be afraid to ask for help.
(((big hugs)))
Hi Pat. I 'found' you over at 'Corvus Corax12's'.
ReplyDeleteThe 'hook' was that you had 9 kids!!! As did my parents...I am number 3 son.
Sorry to learn of your loss. It must be difficult for you and as said above, it takes time....your time.
Good to meet you and I LOVE your attitude! You remind me of an old friend's mother when I was growing up. She,Peggy, would say exactly what was on her mind and never looked back!
A pleasure and a breath of fresh air to meet you.
Jim
Are their any pensions from the local? Was your husband getting any checks from them?
ReplyDeleteAs far as new interests....I am more one to focus on the things I am already interested in and those I have thought about but never taken the time to explore. Love and hugs to you.
Yes I agree that it is your grief and only you will know what is right for you. '
ReplyDeleteAnd I agree with middle child, you had interests before perhaps later you can have a look at them again. Not having Mike to care for has left a huge whole in your life and it will take time to find things to fill it.
Lots of love from
Mexx
My friend, what you need now is time to grieve and time to heal. Everything else is on hold. In time, the interests will come. (((Hugs)))
ReplyDeleteMary
I'm glad to hear that your son helped you with the paper work, that can be so daunting. Keep reading your book the friend advised and support groups helped my friend and so did a couple of books. One day at a time...Hugs, Pearl
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